Perhaps things just happen and it is up to us what we do about it or not.
One thing I know, I feel freer when I do not judge, compare or need to know why. The more vulnerable, teachable and open to change I am, the closer I feel to the infinite and I cannot recall one life lesson learned from when life was going well. I am simply grateful for the good times just like I am grateful for lessons learned from the challenging times.
In my life, I feel soooo loved and supported no matter what happens in my life.